There's an old saying, perhaps you've heard it, "consider the source"? Do you not see the irony in your criticism of LOA, classifying it as a "pseudoscience", with your employer being PSYCHOLOGY TODAY? if I'm not mistaken, has the field of psychology itself, in It's infancy as well as today, not been debunked, by "actual science", referring to it also as "pseudoscience"?

Simply, the Law of Attraction states that you attract that on which you most focus. The obvious corollary to the Law of Attraction is the advice to focus on the things you want more of in your life – that you should spend more time thinking about what you wish to attract into your life than what you don't like. Unfortunately, most people do the opposite, always worrying and obsessing about their problems. While that's human nature, it needn't be yours.
Of course, it is possible to make some broad generalizations. For starters, successful people tend to be good at what they do – although, even here, exceptions exist since some business people, for example, have been regarded as highly successful individuals while determinedly leading their companies down the road to ruin. Additionally, successful people are generally not lazy since becoming successful does require you to do something (even if turns out that you’re ultimately not that good at what that something is). I also happen to think – and it’s a controversial point – that a good dose of intelligence (even if it’s not traditional academic intelligence) does help quite a bit.
I really like the book. It has much information for you to process so it is not a one sitting read. The book does get it about energy and give you suggestions on how to work with your energy. I affirmations are good but I have found as I have progressed I have modified them to fit my progression. I would suggest this book to anyone. I have used this book with Denis Linn Soul Coaching and Donna Eden's Energy Medicine techniques.
I have bought Your books and been an avid fan of your blog! I have always had great success manifesting my desires until recently. My relationship of 4 years has ended- on his part– I have followed Your steps, used EFT, meditation, visualization, and have been working on my vibration. However, the Communication on his end has become increasingly negative (whereas he was not so together) and I am Aware of the desire- the RELATIONsHIP with him- has not manifested. I have been working on releasing resistance & detachment. Any tips or suggestions? Guidance would be appreciated.
The first thing you need to do is take a step back. You’ve come a long way. You’ve been through a lot. You’re still standing. And you may not be happy but you know more. Widsom is gold. You have more than ever which means you have a clearer picture of what you want. Chances are what you put weight on and what you want today is different then say five years ago.
You change your state by consciously being aware of your thoughts and thought patterns. Our thoughts are one way into changing how we feel. And this is why there are so many videos about changing our thoughts and how we think (and you should watch them. They’re like vitimins. You can’t have too much. You’ll just pee out what you don’t need.) Our faulty thinking creates the negative state / energy that attracts nothing but dead ends and more discouragement. It’s a shitty loop most of us call life. Whatever you feed grows so feed the good in your life. You don’t think there’s any good in your life? That’s just means your joy muscles are very weak. There’s always someone with less than you so start the practice of finding the good in your life.
I need some advise from you. I would like to say thank you to you. Your article gave me hope. However, here is my story. I am in love with this guy that I know since 2011. We were so close that we were in ‘NO STRING ATTACHED’ kind of relationship and I felt in love with him. Till now I believe he is the one for me but it is really hard because he don’t see me in that way. He cares for me but he always says I will be happier with someone else. I know its him that I always wanted. He is the amazing guy that I really wish to spend my time with. I did visual n all but its been almost a year and there isnt any results yet. I just want him to realise and notice whats he is missing. Want him to give me a chance of being with him. I truely love him since the first I met him. Please revert back to me. Your assistance are much appreciated.

Although the theory behind the Law of Attraction is very simple, putting it into practice on a conscious level takes work. Negative and limiting belief systems are buried deep inside us. Changing or ridding yourself of ideas and old habits that defeat you at every turn is possible. Are you up to the challenge? Start by learning how to break the habit of attracting negatives. 
As I mentioned earlier, the process of spiritual growth and development is one of releasing and letting go of old ways of being and embracing the new aspects of ourselves that are wanting to emerge.  And welcoming your Soulmate into your life, as an expression of this growth, requires that you now begin by clearing the decks.  This means beginning to remove all of the obstacles that are stopping, hindering, delaying or even distracting you from having the relationship that you truly want to have.  How? By Healing your heart, De-Cluttering your Mind, Releasing the past and Making Room for Love.

Rina – Go back to the basics of using the Law of Attraction to attract a specific person. Right now, you’re focusing on what he isn’t doing. You’re thinking about him not contacting you which is creating more of him not contacting you. Change your thoughts to change the situation. Be okay with him not contacting you, but be open to receiving a message from him. See it as happening. Forget about the world around you and create the reality you want. Allow the world to transform to match your thoughts. Those are key elements for using the Law of Attraction for love for a specific person.


Ron founded Redemption in 1991 with three members and a passion for breaking down the walls of racism, crossing cultural lines, and changing poverty mindsets in their community as well as around the world. The ministry has become a model for successful community impact, and creating strategic partnerships with corporate, governmental, and non-profit organizations to develop innovative ways to improve quality of life.

Ron founded Redemption in 1991 with three members and a passion for breaking down the walls of racism, crossing cultural lines, and changing poverty mindsets in their community as well as around the world. The ministry has become a model for successful community impact, and creating strategic partnerships with corporate, governmental, and non-profit organizations to develop innovative ways to improve quality of life.

Show gratitude. Write down all the things the Universe has given you. Be thankful for what you already have and be thankful for all the things the Universe has given you. The Universe has done a lot of things for us. Paying the Universe back with some gratitude will motivate the Universe to do even more things and will draw more things into your life. If you were once bullied and that person stopped, that's one thing to be thankful for. If the person you're crushing on likes you back, or doesn't but they didn't send their lover out to hurt you, that's another thing to thank the Universe for. You should also thank the Universe for this process too. Showing gratitude will turbo boost the Universe to manifest your request faster.
Develop a belief in what I call the “reverse paradigm shift”. In other words, go for it before you have all the answers. Those so called negative energies (known as cognitive dissonance) are actually the magical seeds of creation and unlimited possibilities. Your destiny and your abundance will always be preceded by confusion and uncertainty. Ask anyone who’s been on the journey.
Be like a kid who allows no impossibility to enter her manifesting realm. "Feeling" helps us release any doubt and negative energy. It generates excitement and positive feelings, which support us to take inspired action! So go test drive that car you want, or feel what it will be like to have the perfect partner in your life, because feeling is believing!
My pleasure. I’m glad you found the response helpful. Melody is great, I have been a fan of hers for a long time. Focusing on that will do wonders for you..just wait and see! Getting what we want doesn’t have to involve doing a bunch of stuff we don’t and it doesn’t have to be painful, contrary to the more common ways of thinking. Several years ago, I visited Korea for a week when I was on vacation from my teaching job in Japan. I was only able to see Busan, but loved it. I would love to go back and see more of the country.
Again, we can only attract that to which we are currently a match, so this means we can’t wait to feel better about our lives until what we want comes. You have to make peace with your single status. You have to start finding ways to feel happy about your life now as it is. This doesn’t mean pretending to like things you don’t, but diligently working on adopting a perspective that actually makes you feel better. It is about focusing on the things in your life that are good, and building on that energy. It is about making time to do things that make you feel good, that help produce the feelings you think you would get from being in a relationship.
Français: utiliser la loi de l'attraction, Italiano: Usare la Legge dell'Attrazione, Deutsch: Anziehungskraft nutzen, Português: Usar a Lei da Atração, Nederlands: De Wet van Aantrekking gebruiken, Русский: использовать закон притяжения, 中文: 运用吸引力法则, Bahasa Indonesia: Menerapkan Hukum Tarik Menarik, العربية: استخدام قانون الجذب الكوني, Tiếng Việt: Sử dụng luật hấp dẫn, ไทย: ใช้กฎแห่งแรงดึงดูด, 한국어: 끌어당김의 법칙 활용하는 법, 日本語: 引き寄せの法則を使う, Türkçe: Çekim Yasası Nasıl Uygulanır, Español: aplicar la ley de la atracción
Besides, getting your turn to succeed won’t work unless you can execute, and steer away from harmful behavior that destroys whatever progress you have made towards success. That’s where the fourth secret comes in: get your priorities right; use your resources wisely; stay focused; develop the right relations; don’t be greedy; and don’t be complacent—as we have discussed in a separate piece.
It would be impossible to publish research in any respectable peer-reviewed psychology journal that was not up to this high standard with concomitant rigorous statistical analyses. These are the standards in psychology. When someone comes up with a new theory in psychology or any other science, for that theory to be of any use, it has to be able to make predictions and those predictions have to be verifiable. If there is no way to disprove a theory, it can explain everything that happens, yet it doesn't predict anything specific that can be tested, it is considered a poor theory.

The Spiritual Explanation: Many people believe that the Law of Attraction works by aligning God or the Universe with our wishes. We are all made of energy, and our energy operates at different frequencies. We can change our frequency of energy with positive thoughts, especially gratitude for what we already have. By using grateful, positive thoughts and feelings and by focusing on our dreams — rather than our frustrations, we can change the frequency of our energy, and the law of attraction brings positive things into our lives. What we attract depends on where and how we focus our attention, but we must believe that it’s already ours, or soon will be.
Trust the Universe. Imagine an alternate dimension that is almost exactly like the real world but whatever you truly desire comes true in an instant. See yourself in that dimension, where whatever you ask the Universe for comes to you in an instant. Don't look for what you asked for; this is where people tend to mess up. If you have to keep an eye out for an event that manifests your wish, it's only telling the Universe you don't have it, and you will attract not having it.

The first article about this was in Psychology Today - “Throw Away Your Vision Board.” After a quarter million hits and much hate mail, I wanted to make sure that I had a thorough LOA understanding so I read every book from the originators of the law in the late 1800s and became a certified “Advanced Practitioner of the Law of Attraction” by one of the authors of "The Secret." I then wrote “Throw Away Your Vision Board 2.” This time the feedback was a little more positive. I recently published the book, Throw Away Your Vision Board: The Truth About the Law of Attraction. This article will summarize 14 reasons why there is no LOA.  

Ask the Universe for it. Make your request. Send a picture of what you want to the Universe. The Universe will answer. See this thing as already yours. See How to Visualize. The more detailed your vision, the better. If you're wanting that Nintendo Wii, see yourself sitting down playing a game on it. See yourself feeling the controller, playing your favorite game(s), touching the console. If there's that person you have a crush on, see yourself walking with them, touching or caressing the person, or even kissing the person. You get the idea.


Consciously shifting your thoughts is definitely the easier path, but when we first start working with LOA, this can be hard to do because our current belief system of having to take action, hustle and MAKE things happen, is still quite strong and we just can’t buy into this fully even if it resonates with us, and we know there is some truth to this method of bringing what we want into our life. Visualizing is a good tool for uncovering resistance, which is essentially all the reasons we tell ourselves we can’t have what we want, and getting into a good feeling space. One of the most important things is not to worry about getting super-specific. Don’t worry about figuring our what this person looks like, exactly what he is like, just try to get into the feelings. Trying to get too specific with the type of person can trigger a lot of resistance, and may even actually clog up the channels of receiving because you may get too attached to this person having to be a very specific way.

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Twin Flames (TF) are Cosmic Marriages of One Soul and exchange of energy of the heart that is in perfect resonance with your own frequency which mirrors you with true heart connection preordained by the cosmos with a grand plan to fulfill the prophecy of love set forth by the cosmos that the 2 as 1 will travel the Journey of Life together. This encounter happens when you’re in line and have decided to evolve and fulfill and carry out your mission and are open to your spiritual path and have the same level of awareness from the lessons life has offered you. Once your TF walks in your life, life is never the same again for they change your life like you had never imagined and this soul connection lasts a lifetime as you live out the rest of your days on this earth together and return to source as ONE.. You felt familiar the moment you met, a lovely sort of deja vu. They know you more than you know yourself. They get you when no one else does and stand by you.. TF will show you everything that is holding you back and brings it to your attention as they reveal the layers of your spirit. Spiritual light to intertwine with other half of your soul. Share same soul union and align with twin. Divine soul union of 2 twin soul coactivation of love of christ which fills each others heart with infinite light and illumination meeting together to form a union to work together in the new earth in counseling, healing and restoration, etc in Sacred Divine Unconditional Comic Love. Love being the core of your being shining light to the world in one soul energy set forth in the same vibration and frequency in a Divine Holy Partnership.. lst there will be flow in soul that brings inner peace and the flow inside of your connection is so strong that you both think alike. There are no desires of control or trying to change them, compromises, conditions, expectations, etc. Only pure existence of unconditional love w/o prejudgment. You dont have to fight for anything as in me vs you for you are truly ONE. You are in mutual agreement and trust the unknown as it unfolds. There are no vibrations of stress no matter what energy or background or planets moving in the universe. THe two of you will feel deep sacred connection within each other’s soul. You will not live in the same vibrations as traditional relationships of 3D. You both come to a position of not needing or asking or wanting or getting for there are no desires in this soul relationship for you have everything you need, want and desire within you and dont have to please each other. You know they love you and dont have to ask for love, you just receive it in your soul connection of giving and receiving as you are continuously making love with one another on a soul level. It is not necessary to have to push for anything, you just receive and give free to each other as energy moves into one another and creates beautiful synchronicity. This energy is so pure and clean that flows between you it charges both of you. You wont need a lot of sleep because of twin soul connection your body and mind state is relaxed and have peace.
At this point, you may still remain unconvinced that this universal principle — which attracts like to like — still seems interwoven in magic and, therefore, unreal. Perhaps it’s because we’re talking about intangible concepts like thoughts and feelings. At least with gravity, an apple thrown up into the air falls onto the ground. You may not understand it, but you can visibly and immediately experience the effects.
I am so grateful I manifested this site/your book. I just read Manifesting Love and beginning first thing tomorrow I am going to intensely start the process of visualizing this guy into my life. The problem is he is a friend and although he talks to me and is friendly he has yet to make a move. I recently found out that he (31) may be dating a 23 year old girl who still lives at home with her parents. I know this girl and I would never want to get in the way of another’s relationship but I have such strong feelings for him. I just want him to start liking me. I also suffer from anxiety and depression which makes the negative feelings even more abundant. Do you have any tips for me? I really want to get this guy in the next 6 weeks. I appreciate any help I can get.
3) The Third List: Your Gifts. The third list is, in my opinion, the most important one. Your soul mate will not be coming into your life to rescue you, make you happy, or save your life.  A soul mate is a friend and partner with whom you’ll be sharing your life.  Someone who will love, nurture and support you while you love, nurture and support them.  Someone who understands the power and beauty of a true soulmate union and will hold the space for love, even when you can’t.
Hi Matt – You have to be willing to forgive her. Not forgiving her is not forgiving yourself for allowing what happened to happen. Wanting her to reconcile with you only creates more wanting. You say you want her to come back to you, but you push her away and ignore her. You’re not in alignment with getting her back. You’re in alignment with not having her in your life. If you really want her back, you have to give her a chance. Read through the articles listed in this article for more tips.
We tend to think of gratitude as a spontaneous emotion, something that just happens to us in moments of triumph or success. In reality, though, gratitude is something we develop.And just like all the other not-so-secret secrets on this list, it is something we choose, something we make a wide-eyed, premeditated, self-determined decision to experience.
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